So what happens when it all hits the fan?

I told you that it might be hard to write a feel-good blog when I, myself, am not feeling all that pink and pretty all the time. And I said that it would be a test..well the results are in: real life 1 - Serena 0. I have failed. These past few weeks have been pretty dreadful and I have not been able to pull out of it to continue the blog, hence the abandoned pages. I could tell you that I am giving up and that the idea of a feel-good blog was too ambitious. How could have I promised to write about positiveness when I know that everything can change in a second? Well, let's try again..2nd chance, 2nd attempt at making this blog work (I am giving myself 3 chances just so you know where this is going).

So then, what is there to do when shit hits the fan? You can do like I do, disappear from the world, close your curtains, lock your door, turn off your cell phone, crawl up in your bed, open that pack of tim tams (or oreos, or pepito..depending on the country you're reading me from), and start with the first rented movie of the pile. Of course the movies have been purposely chosen to make you even more miserable..think Philadelphia, Boys don't cry, or the Notebook and Sleepless in Seattle if you just had your heart broken. Because what would be the point of renting movies like the 40 year old virgin or Ratatouille when the goal of that hibernation is to feel the most miserable possible?

Ok, so you are in your dark room, crumbs of biscuits all over your bed, coming to the end of the movie pile and feeling nauseous...now what? Another run to the video store? more ice cream? This is the tipping point. The split second where you have to be strong enough to say STOP! The split second that will either put you out of your misery or make you dive even deeper into the darkness. OOUUHH sounds scary!

I am not going to try to give you the right solution here, as i don't know it myself. Yes, shit hits the fan sometimes, and yes it is ok to crawl up in your bed and turn off your cell phone, but do not abuse your "i'm depressed, leave me alone privilege". There are people out there who love you and who would do anything to help you, LET THEM! Watch as many movies as you like, but I assure you that real life, real blue skies, real people are so much more interesting, and even though getting out of that bed seems like the hardest things you could ever do, once that step is taken, you'll see, getting on with your life is not that hard!

So take time off, but do not abuse it. Life is so much more fun outside of your bedroom's four walls. Go on, sit at a cafe and read the paper, go back to the gym, take a yoga class, call the friends you have let down, put some music on and re-arrange your room, cook a nice meal (sure beats the tim tams!!), bake some cookies and invite your friends for tea, go fishing, and the list go on and on. Just LIVE and give yourself a bit of a break...it is OK to not feel good sometimes, no one will kill you for it. That's life, it goes up and down. Find what makes you happy and treat yourself and your body the way you know they deserve it!